Kind social Butterfly new to dating

I am 39 I have one child who is 16. I enjoy reading, music, going to Barnes & Noble, which is one of my joys. I love to communicate, and I love to volunteer. I am a social butterfly. Family time is also important me. What I look for in a man : A man who does not smoke and drinks on occasions someone who is thoughful,romantic, patient, kind, shows affection, loves kids as I do have a son, communicates well, loves family, supportive and offers positive affirmations, enjoys reading or anything artsy if that's not you that's okay just be a kind person.